My mother-in-law gave us this bottle of grape juice that’s in a wine bottle. It’s made my some Buddhist monks near her home, and I know the gift was given with love, but I hate it. Every time I open the fridge, I think about wine.
I think about all the times I tried to drink non-alcoholic beer and wine in an attempt to get sober, and all the times I failed. I’d keep a six pack of non-alcoholic beer in the fridge for times when friends came over with beer or wine and wanted to hang out. But it didn’t make me feel like I was fitting in or participating, it made me want the real stuff more.
The problem isn’t that I want wine right now, it’s that I’m thinking about it. Thoughts have a way of permeating and growing and developing, and I don’t want it to get to the point that I want wine again.
Non-alcoholic wine is grape juice. If you wanted grape juice, you’d buy grape juice. If you’ve got a problem with alcohol that you want to try to make go away, you buy non-alcoholic wine. And it doesn’t really work.
Psychologically, you’re still drinking alcohol. It makes it really hard for your brain to make that switch to being ok with being completely sober, when all you’re doing is slapping a band-aid on the problem and playing pretend with grape juice in a wine bottle.
I urge you not to buy these products. I know at first it seems like the perfect solution. I’ll go to the bar with my friends and order a non-alcoholic beer! But, you’re still at a bar. Surrounded with people who are drinking. Drinking a beverage from a beer shaped bottle. The only thing that happens is you getting frustrated.
Get a club soda and just be honest with yourself, and your friends, and let go of the fake booze so you can finally let go of the real stuff too.